Alex What did I do when my husband left?
When my husband left, I gradually discovered that self again. The adventuresome ‘me’ emerged, leading to work that got me around the world on expense accounts. The ‘me’ that loves to learn went back to college to study what I wanted to, not what my husband and community thought I should study.
What happens to your life when your husband walks out?
No longer a wife, but still a loving mother, I now make decisions based on my desires and needs. The fear of ‘what if he does this or what if he does that?’ is gone. I answer to myself, I nurture my own talents and I enjoy wonderful, happy times with my kids.”
Why do I Feel So Lonely after losing my husband?
While a wonderful feeling in marriage, this creates a terrible void in loss. Searching for a new half or looking to plug in just about anyone that even remotely fits can be like trying to maneuver an 18 wheeler into a compact car parking space.
What happens when your marriage ends after 26 years?
“When my marriage ended after 26 years, I realized how much time I had spent thinking about others: how to make my husband or kids happy, how to anticipate their needs, how to give them emotional support and encouragement to be the best they could be. I had pretty much forgotten to do any of that for myself.
Do you miss your husband 6 years later?
I miss my husband. Six years later, I miss him as if he’d died only 2 months ago. I miss my husband on the most perfect of days. And I miss him even more on my worst days. I miss my husband as I snuggle with my guy on the couch while watching TV. Perhaps it’s a commercial, a song or some other thing that reminds me of him…reminds me of us.
What happens when your husband has a midlife crisis?
When I returned control of my husband’s life to its rightful owner, and acted like he was competent and capable—like I had when we fell in love—something magical happened. The midlife crisis went away. The thoughtful, considerate, unselfish man I’d married came back and was loving and sweet again.
Do you miss your husband as a widow?
I miss my husband. Mom to a feisty preschooler, Kerry runs a support group for young widows and widowers venturing back into the world of dating and is a contributor to Open to Hope. Her articles on widowhood and grief have been featured in HuffPost and she was recently featured in the Moments of Clarity podcast.
Why did my husband quit his job and band?
The reason he quit both his job and the band we played in together on the same day (without breathing a word about it to me) was not because he had middle-age crazies. It had to do with feeling like he never got what he wanted because—and this is the embarrassing part—I rarely let him do what he wanted.