How to communicate with your spouse during deployment?

“I try to understand that although my husband does miss me, he may not want to spend his whole deployment on the computer with me. It can make it harder for him. He needs his ways of dealing and to get his mind off of the deployment.

Can a boyfriend and wife survive a deployment?

Spouses, parents, children, girlfriends or boyfriends all have different types of battles to fight, but you all go to war together as a team. If you can hang onto that kind of perspective, things are going to be a lot easier. The worst thing is fighting the battle of deployment and fighting one another at the same time.

How long have you been together before deployment?

We had been together for 7 months before he left. Everything was going great the first half of the deployment, then out of nowhere, he starts to become distant and disconnected. Then he tells me that he doesn’t know if he has the same feelings for me anymore.

When did I move to Japan with my husband?

Since moving Yokohama in 2014 with my husband, who is stationed in Yokosuka, I’ve found that while there’s a lot of helpful and reliable information about life in Japan as a foreigner available, military-specific answers are sometimes more elusive. I remember when I had to open a bank account here.

What happens to spouses of service members during deployment?

For spouses of service members deployed to combat areas, the risk of injury and death can quickly hit home. “I became friends with many of the guys [in my husband’s unit] and having to attend their memorials or funerals was extremely rough,” said Amie.

How to support your partner during a deployment?

Conversely, you can provide support to them through checking in periodically with your service member’s extended family and friends to update them and keep them involved in your own deployment experiences. You can also touch base with a mentor or other confidantes to make sure that your perspective on the deployment experience is accurate.

Can you talk to a service member during a deployment?

Your service member is busy. During deployment they are likely working a literal 24/7 job right now. The military is their life during this deployment and that may mean they don’t have time to talk all day. And, let’s be honest, you’re busy too. Add in the time zone and you may not be able to talk as much as you think.

How long can you call your partner on deployment?

Just remember to maintain operational and personal security while enjoying the benefits of online technology! If your service member does not have Internet access, be prepared for brief phone calls. Your service member may be relying on the Defense Satellite Network (DSN), which limits call lengths to fifteen or thirty minutes.